每天照照鏡子，我們都會發現自己不滿意的地方，重新把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮的;而人呢?是否也懂得其實每一個人都是一面鏡子。看著自己不喜歡的人，要懂得自己要如何更好的完善自己，別讓自己也成為大家不喜歡的對象。請把握好人生中的每一面鏡子。
別人是你的一面鏡子
The first time you meet someone, in the first moment you form an impression in
your mind of that person. Your reactions to other people, however, are really
just barometers for how you perceive yourself. Your reactions to others say
more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate about
yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to
dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.
Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate more clearly
your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge
negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.
To coexist peacefully with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big
challenge is to shift your perspective radically from judgment of other to a
lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions,
judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you
can heal yourself and become whole.
I recently has a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table
manners. My first reaction was to judge him as offensive and his table manners
as disgusting. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked
myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with
someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was
astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the
restaurant perceived me.
Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield
against you becoming like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as
offensive does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the
same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin
chewing my food with my mouth open.
When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest
grievances as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors,
guiding your to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your
greatest quality.
