7 steps below will Help you be lacking in confidence no more.

7招教你抬頭挺胸重拾自信

1.Monitor the Negative Voice

監(jiān)控消極的聲音

Start by monitoring your negative voice.Notice when you are self-critical, and observe the conversations that go on inyour head. When you become aware of the conversations, you can then work onchanging them. Your job is to ensure that the voice in your head is positiveand supportive at all times and not negative and critical.

從監(jiān)控自己的消極的聲音開始吧。當你自我批評時就要注意了，考慮一下在你腦海里的對話。當你意識到這些對話內(nèi)容時，你就可以想辦法去改變這些對話的內(nèi)容了。你一定要確保你腦海里的聲音永遠都是積極向上的，不要有任何的消極的批判。

2.Friends & Family

朋友與家人

Ask your family and friends for theirhonest opinions about what your strengths are. What do they think you are goodat? What were you good at when you were a child? If you want an extensivereview, write out a checklist, and ask them what they think of you in thelisted areas. Ask a couple of people and then you can see if the opinions aresimilar—just make sure the person you ask is not someone who is jealous of youor would have any reason to hurt or offend you.

問問家人和朋友，讓他們誠實的說出你的強項在哪里、他們認為你擅長什么、你小的時候又擅長什么?如果你想要個全面的評估，那就寫個單子，按著單子上的內(nèi)容逐一詢問。可以多問幾個人，看看大家的意見是否相似。

3.No Comparisons

不要與別人比

Don’t compare yourself with others—it’s arecipe for disaster. You only need to be good enough for you, so it doesn’tmatter what you sister, brother, friend or enemy has achieved. Make your ownstandards and set goals that are right for you.

不要總和別人比，因為這是災難的開始。你只需要在自己能力范圍內(nèi)做到最好就可以了。無論是你的兄弟姐妹，還是你的朋友敵人取得了什么樣的成績都不重要。你只要擁有合適自己的標準和目標就可以了。

4.Journalling

要寫日志

Take a long look at yourself and write apage describing yourself. Journalling can be a great way to look at yourselfobjectively. Tell your story like it belongs to someone else. What do youhonestly think you are good at? Nobody has to see what you write, just writefor you. Write down all of your past achievements—start with last year andwrite about anything that went well, and then extend the list year by year,making sure you include all of your achievements.

仔細的考慮過后，寫下一頁關(guān)于描述自己的內(nèi)容。日志是一個非常好的幫助你客觀自我鑒定的方法。要像描述別人一樣講自己的故事。誠實的面對自己，你認為自己擅長什么?沒必要把你寫的東西給別人看。把你過去所有的成就都寫下來，可以從去年開始，然后將內(nèi)容按著年來延伸，一定要確保把自己所有的成就都寫下來。

5.Personality Assessment

性格鑒定

Do a Personality assessment. Theseassessments are a great way to understand yourself and to see how you fit in inthe world; your personal strengths will become more apparent when you arefamiliar with your own personality.

做個性格鑒定。這一個非常棒的辦法讓你更好的了解自己，讓你知道自己是如何在這個世界立足的。如果你能清晰的了解自己性格上的有點，你就能好的了解自己。

6.Create a Positive Environment

創(chuàng)造積極的環(huán)境

Make sure that you surround yourself withpeople who love and support you. If criticism is coming from external sources,remove yourself from the environments that encourage negativity. If you don’thave any friends or family members who inspire and uplift you, join a communitythat will. There are many groups, both online and offline, that have beenformed to encourage people towards a happier and positive life; join one.

要確定自己與愛你支持你的人在一起。如果批評來自于外界，那就讓自己離開這個消極的環(huán)境。如果你身邊沒有愿意激勵你、抬高你的人，那就加入一個有這樣的人的群體里。在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上和現(xiàn)實生活中都有愿意鼓勵別人，讓別人更快樂更積極的集體，找到他們加入他們。

7.Drown Yourself in Positivity

讓自己積極樂觀

Create affirmations that uplift you. Postpositive messages to yourself all over your house and work, and every time yousay something negative to yourself, replace it with positive thoughts or words.The most important thing to remember is that you are in control of yourthoughts. Any past negative patterns can be broken but you must fill the voidwith positive supportive thoughts and words. Remember that it’s important to behappy with who you, are and to achieve things in life that are right for you.So get a bit of perspective, look at yourself objectively and learn how to behappy with who you are.

寫一句肯定自我的話。將它貼滿自己的房間和工作的地方，每一次你否定自我的時候，就用這句肯定自我的話將腦海中的消息信息替換掉。最重要的是要記住控制自己的思想。任何消極的思維都可以被消滅，但是你需要用一個積極向上的思維將其替換掉。要記住，你開開心心的做自己，開開心心的成就你人生中改成就的事。因此好好審視一下自己，想想要如何開開心心的做自己.